Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo Urges Men to Avoid ‘Financially Dependent’ Partners, Calls for Balanced Marriages

Relationship coach and senior pastor of David’s Christian Center, Kingsley Okonkwo, has advised men to prioritise financially responsible partners when considering marriage, stressing the importance of balanced relationships rather than financial dependency.

In a series of posts on social media, Okonkwo argued that many men are gradually losing interest in marriage because it is increasingly perceived as a financial burden instead of a partnership built on mutual contribution.

According to the cleric, men should begin to set clearer standards in their relationships, particularly when it comes to financial responsibility.

“Men, it’s high time we start having standards as well. You guys are too used to women who are liabilities, that’s why less and less men desire marriage; they see it as a burden,” he wrote.

Okonkwo further encouraged men to seek partners who are willing and able to contribute to building a shared future, rather than relying entirely on them for financial support.

“Men set standards like you won’t marry broke women too, that you want a partner and not a dependent. Maybe it will make more women work and not see marriage and dating as a poverty alleviation scheme,” he added.

The pastor also criticised societal expectations that place the entire financial responsibility of relationships on men, describing such beliefs as harmful and inconsistent with biblical teachings.

“The current system is not only unbiblical but also damaging the society. Women brazenly insist on rich men; I think we should also insist on working women that will contribute,” he stated.

Okonkwo also cautioned men against intentionally choosing financially vulnerable women in order to maintain control in relationships, warning that such behaviour can have negative consequences for both individuals and society.

“Yes, I know some of you men like the needy, hungry and dependent women because it boosts your ego and helps you control women, but it’s doing more harm than good. All humans have value and abilities; let them develop it,” he said.